Saturday, March 14, 2009

Dear Bank of Hypocrisy, You're Fired!

I was going through our files today in order to purge the paperwork we don't need anymore when I got a laugh out of the following letter from Brandon's former bank:
"As you requested, we have regrettably closed your "Bank of Hypocrisy" credit card account. We hope you will reconsider your decision and make your "Bank of Hypocrisy" credit card your card of choice.... We have enjoyed having the opportunity to serve you. If you would like to re-open your account, please contact our Customer Service Center..."
No thanks!

I know it's weird in this day and age but I never bought into the concept of a credit card. 4 years ago I convinced Brandon to close the credit card he was "persuaded" to open as "overdraft protection" for his checking account during college. When he called to close the account they resorted to all manner of desperate tactics as I sat there jokingly, cheering him on to "stay strong." It was quite comical. And then we received their heart-felt letter.

Please, what they regret is they couldn't continue to charge him all those ridiculous fees and high interest rates. They wanted him to reconsider being screwed out of hard earned money month after month. What they enjoyed was the opportunity to take our money. No thank you.

We have since made drastic changes to our finances. One of those is the decision to never use credit again. We've never had a problem since and it works for us.

So banks, no thank you, we choose not to be your slaves.

Friday, March 13, 2009


Praise God! After my first round of blood tests following treatment I am pleased to say my liver numbers have all returned to normal and my blood cell counts are all good. I had my first appointment with my new doctor who I know I will enjoy working with. He wants to take me all the way off the steroids and then the 6-MP. I began the weaning process for the steroids last night and it will probably take a month to come off completely. They will continue to monitor my liver numbers and blood cell counts very regularly and as long as my liver numbers are good I will be able to get off the medications. Awesome news! The side effects have been annoying and I am looking forward to getting rid of them. No more all too frequent trips to the bathroom. (even at all hours of the night, I feel like I'm pregnant again.) Good bye to the horrible breakouts all over (I look like I have the measles) No more retaining water, night sweats, dizziness, and fatigue.

And best of all we will be able to start trying for children again. That is still months away but it sounds like it will be sooner than first expected. 6-MP is a chemotherapy drug. In treatment of cancer it's function is to kill bad cells but it isn't choosy, it can kill good cells too. (most often the blood cells) That wouldn't be a good thing for a developing baby. At first I was told I would have to take the 6-MP for at least 3 months and then it would take another 3 months for the drug to completely clear my system. Being told we had 6 months more of waiting after 2 painful years of trying was hard to hear but we knew it was for the best. After all I need to be healthy before I can worry about the health of a growing little one.

For some reason the autoimmune problems in relation to pregnancy have been easier to handle then the infertility. While infertility isn't final it has such a finality about it, there is hardly any control over the outcome. I think that's why it's so much harder to deal with emotionally. The autoimmune problems can almost always be controlled and I'm showing great progress in responding so quickly to the treatment. With roadblock after roadblock it is easy to become discouraged, to want to just give up and I do struggle with letting go and trusting God will answer our prayers. I just keep reminding myself that whatever happens will be to the glory of God and who am I to argue with that?

I am excited for the progress and the good news. I have learned to slow down, to listen to my body when it says 'enough.' And even better, in slowing down I am learning to enjoy my life just where it is instead of constantly thinking about where it could be. After all it fits well with one philosophy of success I admire: finding contentment no matter your situation.

Sunday, March 8, 2009

Adventures in Babysitting

My aunt and uncle needed a last minute babysitter for a few hours this weekend. I enjoy spending time with my cousins (Katy and Michael are 8, Ryan is 13) especially since we don't often see them with busy schedules and all. We weren't busy Saturday night so we agreed to go watch Michael's baseball game and then bring the twins home afterward while their parents attended a birthday party.

After the game we took Katy and Michael out for some dinner and then headed home. We went to let ourselves in using the garage door code only to find that it wasn't working. Figures! Suzi had mentioned that it had been acting up lately so she would leave the keys with us, she forgot. Figures! And Katy had used the code just before we left and it worked. Figures! We called David to find out if there was a spare key somewhere hidden or with the neighbors. No, of course not, that would be too easy. So we loaded up the twins to go retrieve the keys from the restaurant they were at. Luckily, just as we were pulling out of the driveway Ryan was dropped off from his baseball tournament so at least he didn't come home to no one and completely locked out.

The little ones were exhausted from all their baseball opening day activities so they promptly fell asleep in the car. By the time we got back to the house we only had about an hour left to watch them. Ryan immediately went up to shower, then entertained himself with World of Warcraft for the rest of the time. Michael staggered upstairs to continue his sleep on the floor in the game room, still fully dressed in his baseball gear. Poor kid! I didn't have the heart to wake him. Katy watched a little TV and then without prompting went to take her shower as well. I'm always pleased with how well they behave when we are watching them. They are helpful, they mind well, they always say please and thank you. Of course they have their moments but they are such great kids!

All's well that ends well.